Stress-less Summer

I have a confession. I jumped the gun a teensy eensy bit.  My friend Amy was having this online bookclub, discussing Jen Hatmaker’s crazy book 7, and  before I’d even read it, I agreed to write about the final chapter and the conclusion.

I’d heard good things about the book, so what could it hurt?

The final chapter is on STRESS. Not my forte.

But before I got to this chapter, I became so enamored of Jen (BFF in my heart), that I had wrangled a group of bloggers into blogging about each of the challenges, a week at a time.  We are calling this The Summer of 7, and one week in, I have to say this is the most blogging fun I’ve ever had—if you like having your heart and conscience daily served up to you on an Internet platter. We have a blog hop on each challenge and a luv-er-ly Facebook page, so do join in, even if only to spy on our craziness.

But back to the chapter on Stress. In order to reduce stress, Hatmaker (aka: my unknown to even herself BFF Jen) talks about participating in the Seven Sacred Pauses and the rituals of Shabbat.  I found this very interesting because, though previously I had known very little about monastic living, I recently read a novel called The Hawk and the Dove, about monastic life. Throughout the novel, these times of prayer are mentioned. Despite thinking I had NOTHING in common with monks, I found this book beautiful and lifestyle of the monastery compelling, so Jen’s suggestion about the Sacred Pauses was intriguing.

But truthfully, the idea of trying to implement the seven pauses into my days with ALL my kids and my husband home from school is a bit overwhelming and, frankly, depressing.  I just don’t see it happening. Even though I love the idea of what she did, I cannot envision it working in my home. (Though I thought she was very honest about the realities of what is looked like in her home.)

  • I don’t see myself regularly doing anything every three hours. I think nursing a newborn might be the only thing I did with that regularity and that was unarguably one of the most stressful periods of my life.
  • My kids and husband are not of the age or inclination (respectively) to do anything with me every three hours, much less read Psalms and prayers meditatively. Lately I have just been trying to get my kids NOT TO SING the blessing (God our Father) as loudly and quickly as possibly before eating commences. Reverence is an acquired skill, apparently.
  • Efforts that I might make toward encouraging “rest” or Shabbat would definitely come off as dictatorial limitations of fun and freedom. (WHAT!!?? No TV. Why do we have to have dinner at the table!?!)
  • By this point in the list, I’m just discouraged.

Then she said several things in the Conclusion that reinvigorated me. (Read: THEY de-stressed me.)

  • Hear this: I don’t think God wants you at war with yourself.
  • Self-deprication is a cruel response to Jesus, who died and made us righteous.
  • Just do the next right thing.

To that end, I’ve decided what I’m going to do for The Summer of 7 Stress Challenge which will begin for me next Monday, June 11th and continue through our week of vacation at the beach, ending June 30th.  (Some of you may recall, I’m very easy going at the beach.)  Even though I had initially planned for the challenges to be one week, I’m going to try to extend a few of them out for 21 days where possible, the time Jen suggested was necessary for making a new habit.

To cut out stress, I’m going to focus on the following aspects of my heart.

  1. No disclaimers. I already have some practice on this from Lent, and it DOES reduce stress. I need to revisit this.
  2. No false guilt. In the midst of much of the conviction that I’m experiencing from Summer of 7, I want to remember that conviction motivates and shame or false guilt debilitates.
  3. Shabbat rest. Hear this one. I am NOT going to touch the computer from sundown Saturday to sundown Sunday.  I know that sounds like media, but I think that might be the first step in getting a more restful Sunday. This is going to be REALLY REALLY hard for me. (Does the iPhone count?)
  4. Resume Scripture memory. My kids and I have fallen behind on our Letter Verses.  Knowing God’s word is transformative and gives us the “peace which passes all understanding,” so to that end, I think it destresses us. I’d like to resume this project.
  5. Outside prayers. Daily. We have a gorgeous screened in porch and now a tree fort. While I don’t think I can or should commit to seven pauses, I’m going to attempt to have a daily outside prayer time.
  6. Scheduled one on one time. Daily. I am going to try to spend at least ONE hour of undivided time per week with each member of my family. I know that sounds lame and not enough, but I know that I’m not deliberate about this. Now that summer is upon us, we have the flexibility to make this happen.  We will all be less demanding of one another if we are secure in the amount of time we are getting together.
  7. Reading and Puzzles. These are two activities that I LOVE that have gotten squeezed about by life. They de-stress me and I really enjoy them. Since, as I’ve mentioned, I have more flexibility in my schedule in summer, I am going to try to have a daily novel or puzzle time.

That’s it! Stress-less summer is just around the corner, right?

(Oh, PS, if you are a new reader, may I recommend you read some of the links that I referenced in this post; they are some of my best and I think you’ll enjoy them. :)

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15 Responses to Stress-less Summer

  1. Gaby June 6, 2012 at 11:58 am #

    I like your plan, Katrina. If following a plan to fight stress stresses you, well…and I like “do the next right thing”

    I can’t wait to read your results!
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  2. Amy in Wanderland June 6, 2012 at 12:10 pm #

    I thought I was your BFF.

    Thank you for the thoughts on stress-free living. As for your road to a more restful Sunday, well, it makes my skin crawl to think about it, but I will consider it nonetheless. I think you might have something there. <3
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    • Katrina June 6, 2012 at 1:40 pm #

      You ARE my BBFF. (Blogging Best Friend Forever) Plus, I actually know you even though I’ve never gazed upon your lovely face. Jen Hatmaker is my DKMYBSMBFF (Doesn’t know me yet, but she’s my best friend forever.) :) Don’t even try to e-mail me on Shabbat or I’ll have to kick yer tail, you temptress.

  3. Gina June 6, 2012 at 12:33 pm #

    Great ideas! I especially love the no computer Sabbath. I am also trying just to be more intentional about protecting those sacred moments with God and family, in whatever form – otherwise life just swallows them up!
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    • Katrina June 6, 2012 at 1:37 pm #

      Well, I figure this will also help me prepare for NO MEDIA WEEK coming up in late July. I know, know, know I am an addict of the computer and if I really truly want rest, I have to see that more computer is NOT the answer. Less probably is.

  4. Courtney June 6, 2012 at 1:47 pm #

    These are great suggestions – especially to stay away from the computer from Sat-Sun. I’m going to try that! Because media is a source of stress for me, too. Really appreciate your honesty here!
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    • Katrina June 6, 2012 at 3:45 pm #

      You should link your 7 post to our blog hop!! Lots more traffic and fun connection with other Summer of Seveners. :)

  5. Andrea June 6, 2012 at 3:41 pm #

    I love your honesty – this is a fantastic list and I am off to check out the FB page!
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  6. Amy Sullivan June 6, 2012 at 6:52 pm #

    First of all, what a great button for this series. Seriously, JH is going to want to steal it for her new workbooks!

    I am guilty of taking on everything with a smile and then secretly stressing. I’ve got it, I can handle it, I’m in control. It leaves little room for God to do His thing.

    Each time I read a chapter, I think this one is the best! But stress, now stress really spoke to me.
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    • Katrina June 6, 2012 at 7:06 pm #

      I will tell my hubby, the cartoonist, that you like the button. Then maybe he will feel inspired to NOT watch TV and eat 7 foods for a month. You think? 😉 Thanks for getting me into this . .

  7. Leanne June 6, 2012 at 8:15 pm #

    I’m an associate of an Episcopal order of monks. (in that I’m a lay supporter, basically, and have a rather simple “rule of life”. It’s a long story. Which I will write about sometime (oh, I did, sort of, here: http://provokingbeauty.blogspot.com/2011/06/last-week-i-became-associate.html)

    anywho, advice I’ve received from one of the monks is pretty much to take on one thing at a time. So in keeping the monastic hours — start with one, make it a habit, add another if that’s what works. figure out what time is going to work best. you might not get to all 7 pauses, or find 7 different ways (as you have) or finding the sabbath time. Or start with the most basic of prayers (’cause they can get kinda epic) and build up to a full-length session.

    Hope that helps…
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    • Katrina June 6, 2012 at 10:02 pm #

      Great suggestions. Well, I do like the idea of adding these pauses to my day. I have been more successful than ever this year with my morning quiet time, but I would like to incorporate MORE simple meditation. I’m going to see how my “poorganic pauses” go and then we’ll go from there. :) I can’t wait to read your post.

  8. Positively Alene June 8, 2012 at 4:25 pm #

    Love your suggestions for stress. I’ll be getting there soon. The one that struck me was not touching the computer sundown to sundown. It brings such a peace!

    If I’m not a BBFF or a DKMYBSMBFF — then what can I be? SGBFWLIT (stinkin’ good bloggin’ friend who lives in Texas)
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  9. Alison June 9, 2012 at 12:07 pm #

    I’m going to chime in on the love the no computer on Sabbath “rule.” As much as I love my computer, I feel better when I take a break from it for a while. :)
    I hear you on not wanting to impose a dictatorship on the kids. Sometimes if you approach it as adding something new in instead of giving up something, that helps to make changes. We started reading the Bible with the kids after dinner (stole from Ann Voskamp) this school year and just recently added having a memory verse of the week. Sometimes it is painful to read the Bible with two six-year-olds and two-eight-year-olds and it feels as though they totally aren’t listening, but then again, if we don’t do it, they remind us!
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  10. Matt June 13, 2012 at 4:26 am #

    In mid March, I also gave up use of the computer (and other iDevices) for the Sabbath and it’s made a huge difference. I encourage you to continue in this!