A few months ago, my husband and I were driving home from a dairy in PFE (Poorganic Freakin’ Egypt). We had spent our Saturday morning picking-up and delivering raw milk to friends in our raw milk co-op. The back of our car was finally cleared of coolers, ice, wads of cash and the 30+ gallons of milk we had dropped off to our other poorganic friends. We stopped at my mom’s to pick up our littler kids before a milk drop off at our house before heading to Charlotte to pick up our oldest daughter from a sleepover.
Carting the kids and our raw milk inside, the ProvidinaTOR and I were both wiped out and glad that our turn as deliverers would only come every 12 weeks. It was then that I, um, . . . . observed that my two year old needed her diaper changed.
I took her to back to her room to discover, lo and behold, another horribly runny, enzyme-full diaper.
You may know that raw milk contains enzymes and pro-biotics that, though preportedly better for digestion and gut-flora, are a bit, well, activating. Ahem. (Don’t you love it when I start talking all . . . REAL FOOD on ya’.)
Theoretically, our bodies adapt to the increase in enzymes, but after 3 months on raw milk, our daughter, who is totally a dairy-aholic, wasn’t comin’ around. Also, I was suffering adolescent-like acne issues that had seriously tested my vanity.
It was then and there, elbow-up in enzymes, when I had a lightening bolt-like break-through.
Sometimes what is “better for you” isn’t better for you.
Since starting into real foods, I’ve heard a lot of things that are “better.”
- Raw whole milk is better.
- Freshly ground grains are better.
- Sprouted grains are better.
- Local is better.
- Organic is better.
- Sucanat is better.
- Coconut oil is better.
- Grass fed is better.
- Wild caught is better.
That is just a tiny, eensy weensy list of things that are better than . . ., you know, . . the diabolical evil that will overtake your life if you settle for what isn’t better. But just in case you haven’t yet arrived at this point, I am going to list a few things that are NOT BETTER.
- Driving insane distances to obtain a single food item.
- Paralyzing fear of food that isn’t real
- Helicopter-moming your family’s diet in an obsessive way
- Months of changing diarrhea diapers
- Manic paranoia
- Depressive inability to concoct a meal out of the 6 whole food ingredients: spelt, asparagus, unsoaked lentils, kefir, kale, and wheatgrass
- Fear, worry, and fearful worrying
- Delusional belief that controlling your food will give you god-like sovereignty over your family’s health and wellness
- Fighting with your spouse about food
- Fighting with your spouse about money spent on food
If you can identify with any of the items on the above list, you probably know at least one or two things that are “better for you” that aren’t actually better at ALL. Some aspects of your real food lifestyle might be making you crazy, which means that they aren’t BETTER FOR YOU.
In our case, I realized that raw milk, the drive, the co-op, the persistent runny diapers, and the perpetual acne was making me crazy, which meant that it is NOT better for us. The mental and emotional health of our family is JUST AS important as our physical well-being.
I’m going to repeat that. The mental and emotional health of our family is JUST AS important as our physical well-being.
We are back to drinking regular milk that is not even organic. (You can read our whole dairy story here. There are some good comments about conventional dairies too.) But one thing I have concluded is that the milk we are drinking now actually IS better for us in the long run.
What have you found isn’t really “better for you” after all?